Sunday, August 21, 2016

10 Things Europeans Say About You Behind Your Back

Europeans are among the world's most gracious travel hosts, rolling out a red carpet of good manners, fabulous food, and the ultimate in culture and history. But do you ever wonder what they think of YOU? Here's what we've heard…

By Robert Firpo-Cappiello
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"You sound like an idiot when you imitate our accents!"
Ouch. Turns out that posh James Bond imitation you think you've mastered sounds like the squeak of chalk on a blackboard to a Brit. And chances are, even as you read this, you believe you are the exception to this rule—that your Daniel Craig could fool a native? No. Stop. Please.

"Why are you smiling? You don't even know us!"

Boy, those French are unfriendly, huh? Guess again. They're just more physically reserved than you are, and that goes for facial expressions, too. A Parisian, especially when addressing a stranger, will rarely smile, and this is often misinterpreted by American as that legendary (and largely mythical) French rudeness. We, on the other hand, have been taught to approach new people, even total strangers, with our pearly whites bared. Down, Sparky. It just weirds them out.

"You eat too fast."

From way up in Scandinavia all the way down to Sicily, Europeans seem to be united in the opinion that Americans don't know how to enjoy a meal. Yep. Shocking as it may seem, the country that invented "fast food" and the "power lunch" puzzles its neighbors across the pond when it comes to table manners. Apparently, we start eating before it's considered polite, we don't stop to talk enough, and we perhaps miss the entire point of chowing down in the presence of other human beings. Wherever you may be visiting (but especially southern Europe), if you sit down to eat with locals, we suggest that you just quietly tell yourself, "Slow down."

"You drink too much."

Ok, in fairness to my American brethren, it's true that in some corners of Europe it is common to outdrink Americans at a truly magnificent pace. But overall, the European approach to beer, wine, and spirits is similar to their approach to a nice meal: What's the rush? It's perfectly acceptable to savor a two-hour lunch that includes a few goblets of wine. But binge-drinking is considered a weakness, especially in wine-producing regions, where the vino is regarded as much a food as a beverage.

"You work too hard."

Except in a few major economic centers, London in particular, the locals aren't going to be terribly interested in hearing your workplace war stories, how much money you're spending on your vacation, or how much your house back in the States cost. The country you are visiting may even have strict rules or customs about the length of a work week. But more importantly, Europeans just know how to pursue a work/life balance more healthfully than Americans: Take time to sit down for coffee and a croissant in the morning, consider an afternoon nap (if you're staying with your Italian cousins, they may insist on it!), and if you head out to dinner in, say, Barcelona, expect the tapas to go around the table well into the wee hours. Relax!

"You are a prude."

Whoa. Really? But isn't American culture awash in cutting-edge body parts and potty mouth? Yes, and that's actually a sign of our priggish problem. In many European cultures, the human body is considered simply, well, the human body. Our fascination with certain anatomical features is not shared by Europeans. That's why in some regions of Europe you'll see nude bathing and hear jokes that would make your mother blush. Next time you see a photo of the inscrutable Catalan Christmas pooper, just say to yourself, "Don't judge. Remember, you are a prude."

"Seriously? We speak three or four languages and you can't be bothered to learn to say 'Do you speak English?' in ours?"

Rosetta Stone, people. Rosetta Stone.

"You don't know the difference between 'Baltic' and 'Balkan' or, for that matter, what The Hague is."

Be honest. Did you even know that "Sochi" was a thing before the Russian city hosted the Winter Games? Is Trieste in Switzerland, Croatia, or France? We're not suggesting that you prepare for a geography bee before boarding your Paris-bound plane. But, gosh, get some arrondissements into your short-term memory, remember that Marseille is France's second-largest city, and understand that "Omaha Beach" is not what the French call that stretch of Normandy coast. (Answer key: The Baltic Sea is in northern Europe; "Balkan" refers to the peninsula shared by Serbia, Greece, and other nations; The Hague is the third-largest city in the Netherlands; and Trieste is in Italy.)

"You dress like a slob."

This applies to American men more than women, and it's difficult to argue. On any given street of any given European town on any given day, I will not be able to compete with the stylish dress of the gents who pass my way. While a few decades ago this may not have been the case (I can imagine Don Draper holding his own against an onslaught of silk-suited Florentines), my generation has admittedly opted to dress like overgrown boys, and our T-shirts, baggy jeans, and five o'clock shadows scream "Yank."

"We know your history better than you do."

I say kudos to Europe's schools for instilling in their citizenry the ability to understand the difference between Bill Clinton and George Clinton. Unfortunately, Americans' grasp of European history is often as sketchy as their grasp of geography. So just know that when you drop a name like Churchill or Garibaldi overseas, you are inviting a conversation in which you may eventually be called upon to remember who sold President Thomas Jefferson the 800,000+ square miles that now comprises all or parts of Arkansas, Missouri, Iowa, Oklahoma, Kansas, Nebraska, Minnesota, North and South Dakota, New Mexico, Texas, Colorado, Montana, Wyoming, and, of course, Louisiana.
(Psst! It was France.)

Friday, August 5, 2016

Preparing for Special Events

Here are some tips for preparing for special events that you can share with the younger Ladies in your family.

Please don't wait until the day of the event to put together an outfit. Start a week or more in advance and design/build/create an outfit that is a true reflection of who you are as a person. Try on EVERYTHING to make sure it all works together including shoes and jewelry. Make sure your clothes are clean and pressed. Check your shoes for dirt or scuff marks. Choose a smaller handbag with a shoulder strap or chain instead of lugging your large "my whole life is in this bag" handbag.  Pack a few things from your large handbag in a tote bag to stash in your trunk.  If you plan to wear a dress or skirt and you don't want to wear hose, start using a self tanning product made just for legs at least a week in advance.  Follow the instructions to the letter and wash your hands afterward.  Tuck a tissue under each arm to catch deodorant residue that often rubs off on your clothes. Google the location of the event and check out their website. If it's outdoors don't wear stiletto heels that will sink into the ground. If it's indoors take a wrap for the air conditioning.  Get your hair colored and cut a week before the event.  Do your mani/pedi in advance too.  Try out new make up a few days in advance to make sure you aren't allergic and to insure that the colors are right for you. Give yourself twice as much time to get ready as you normally do. That extra time is precious if you have to edit or change something about your outfit. Try not to run yourself ragged the day of the event.  If the day turns out to be hectic at least your outfit and accessories will be put together.   Relax, smile and have a great time!